Hi Magical,
It doesn't sound like your current fellowship is much fun. You would find us a much easier-going bunch. Participation in fellowship adventures, tournaments, etc., is strictly voluntary; although if you ask for help, say, to reach a chest in the tourney, we would do everything we can to help you out. And we don't have a strict hierarchy of authority. Everyone has an equal say. (I thought that spreadsheet was absolutely awesome, and you did your fellowship a favor by posting the link, in my opinion!) We encourage our members to visit each other as often as they can and to help with trades. And we are happy to offer advice or answer questions or just visit in chat. We have members in the United States (who are up all hours of the day and night--weird sleep schedules) as well as Australia and Canada. So you would probably find someone on line at the same time you are. We would love to have you join us, if you're interested.
Good luck with your searching, and I hope you pick us!
Squiggle